In some cases, the surviving family members will address all the funeral details when they make the arrangements. Many others actually make their own funeral arrangements prior to their death including all of the details most important to them.
The details that a funeral home will take care of include the care of the body, the hosting of a wake or viewing, the funeral services either there or in a place of worship and the burial. On the day of the funeral my uncle came and stood by my side as I read the funeral poem and I was so glad that he did, I thought that my heart was going to jump out of my chest, it was pounding that hard. Funeral poems are used to help overcome shock right away.
Often mementos are kept for many years, framed for the family or left at the grave site as a reminder of the deceased. In the spirit of putting in a good word for the deceased, a eulogy will rarely dwell on any less attractive side of a person's life - a funeral is a time for positive thoughts, forgiveness and perhaps a little regret at lost opportunities; but traditionally it is not a time for accusations and controversy when the person is not in a position to come to his or her own defense. Using poetry to help with grief, to express love or pain and to memorialize a friend or family member is very powerful and will be appreciated by others who have experienced a loss.
Writing the eulogy is not an easy thing but take the info here to help you through it. Grief is not something we can simply set aside.
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